Is Your Love Life in Need of Affection?


What is the Meaning of Affection in a Relationship?

When was the last time that your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife kissed you?  Do you often hunger for your significant other to show what they feel for you inside of their heart through action? If you are hungering to see a feeling with action, this is known as the meaning of affection. 

It’s important that you find someone that will give you the kind of attention that you believe you deserve in love.  Many men and women re not affectionate.  You will often find that when someone is trying to give you affection and their heart, they express it differently.  Love means something different for every person. 

You may be the kind of person that wants to express love and care for someone through hugs, kissed, notes, greeting cards, social media posts and much more. 

Until you date someone, you are not going to know if they fulfill you or give you enough affection to make you feel connected to them on a deeper basis.

Some Affection Examples Are:

  • Kissing
  • Hugging
  • Baby Talk
  • Romantic love names (Honey, Baby, Sweetheart)
  • Long walks on the beach holding hands
  • Giving your romantic partner a massage
  • Holding someone while in bed or watching a movie

What Are Some Affectionate Names for Boyfriend?

  • Babe
  • Puffer
  • Love
  • Tarzan
  • Rocky
  • Daddy
  • Lion
  • Tiger
  • Muffin
  • Love Biscuit
  • Lover
  • King
  • Hot Stuff
  • Big John

How to Share Mutual Affection

In order to have more affection in your life, you are going to have to lead the way. Your person of interest may not be a person that was raised to give affection through action. They may be the kind of person that wants to express love but doesn’t know how to do that exactly.  At times, you may wonder if giving them a kiss or a hug will make them feel uncomfortable.

It’s important that you have a serious one on one discussion on how they like to express their love. Are they the kind of person that only likes to express affection in the bedroom or in private?  Some people don’t like to hold hands while walking down the street.

Learning what works for your partner is the fastest way for you to see if touch is something that they wish to have in the relationship.  You may find that they only like to be touched if you are making love or have a specific reason for doing so.

Your lover may prefer texting and phone communication to express themselves. They may prefer being by themselves most of the time and only talking to you if its necessary. It’s important for you to see that you can have love in your life with someone that truly cares for you if you take your time when it comes to love.

In order to get them to start expressing their love to you through action, set up something in which you can be alone together. Often, staying at home and watching a movie on Netflix can get into their head a lot.  Try to snuggle up with them while watching a movie and watch what they do.

Don’t be surprised if they don’t put their arm around you first. Most people that don’t like to express affection often assume that you don’t like it either.

Sometimes, a person may walk into a room full of people and not even say hello.  They may see this as not being rude and you may think that its completely disrespectful. It’s important to find out where a person is coming from first before you begin making assumptions.

Also, tell your lover that when you walk down the street with them, you prefer to hold their hand.  You have a 50% chance of them saying that they want to express the same to you. It’s important for you to see that your lover may or may not have the same ideas as you have.

Many Guys Are Shy to Express Their Feelings

Many men find it difficult to express themselves romantically.  They might not know how to express emotion. Often, boys are raised to be “rough and tough” and not show emotion. Many fathers teach their sons that showing affection and emotion is a sign of weakness.

It’s important to understand that not everyone is going to have the same kinds of expressions as you will. It’s important to see that love does take time to come together and grow.  It’s emotional and it often is hard to understand why people in the world today don’t know for sure what they want exactly. 

It looks like you will have to push the relationship to another level if you want to have him express how he feels.  Ask him direct questions about something to get a direct answer. Some guys don’t like to talk much.  They often communicate best through the few words that they say to you. 

How Can You Express Deep Affection?

You can express deep affection for someone through deep kissing, greeting cards that say, “I love you” and intimacy in the bedroom.  You will find that when you are expressing yourself to someone, they respond well.  At times, you are going to feel that the self-expression is amazing because it puts you into a situation in which you can have love with someone that you have never experienced before. 

Also, deep communication is another great form of your affection. You can begin communicating to your lover about how you feel about them.  It doesn’t always have to be through touch.  Sometimes, words can say a lot more to a person. 

If you spend a weekend alone with someone, you can easily talk to them about your feelings and what you are going through on a day to day bass.  In a world full of chaos, we often need to have a weekend get away with the person that we love. Going away to a campsite and renting a cabin is often a great idea. It’s cheap, fun and you can easily cut yourself off from social media, annoying cell phones ringing and your partner checking their phone text messages 24/7.  Just taking two days a month often bonds your relationship a lot closer together. You will find that when the two of you are bonding with one another, good things begin to happen. 

How to Get a Woman to Express Affection to You

Sometimes, its not just the man that doesn’t want to express emotion.  A lot of the time, it’s the woman not wanting you to get into her heart.  She may have a wall up. Perhaps she was hurt a lot in love and wants to test you out for a while.  She may feel that you are not going to give her what she needs.

Many women today have been “burned” by love and don’t know if they are going to be with someone in the future or not. They may say that you are here today and will most likely be gone tomorrow. If she feels that she has been hurt a lot and lied to, its no wonder why she is feeling all these kinds of emotion. It’s important to reassure her of your love. Let her know that when she is with you, good things are going to happen.

It’s important that you ask her a lot about past relationships.  Women that don’t express affection often do so because they feel that someone has hurt them, and they are still not over it. It can be painful to see a woman rejecting your feelings.

If you want to get her to express herself more, its important to stimulate her mind through conversation. It’s important that you let her know that you will always be there for her.  Many women need reassurance as to you being able to give her what she needs. By getting to the root of the cause of her non affection is the best way to winning her heart.

Also, giving her a nice bouquet of flowers or chocolates will allow her to see that you are trying to romance her. There is nothing more appealing to the eyes than seeing a dozen red roses or a box of Godiva chocolates. 

Love Doesn’t Happen Everyday

It’s important to note that love doesn’t happen every day. Many men and women often feel that if the person is not giving them what they need right away in the relationship, its best to move on. However, its important to understand that you are not always going to have the opportunity for love.  You need to learn to work with what you have.  The “grass is not always greener on the other side.”  In fact, the grass is often the same or worse. 

Relationship hopping is the #1 problem with lovers today. When something goes wrong in the relationship, most people are quick to give up. They often feel that its better to start off a relationship with someone that has less baggage. However, you will come to find that we all have a series of baggage that we load around. 

You may think that your girlfriend/boyfriends non affection is bad, but if you involve yourself with someone new, you may find that this person has a bad temper, anger issues, drug addictions and may even dump you for someone else when they get tired of you.

If you have someone in your life that you love, its important to work with them and allow them to see that you are not just going to abandon them and move on from the relationship. 

When you show someone unconditional love, they are more prone to giving you what you need. You may find that its often hard to get someone’s attention when they don’t want to give you their time.  However, that can always be worked on. 

Excessive Texting May Lead a Man to a Lack of Affection

Many men today feel that their girlfriends and “women that they just met” are texting them to much. A great rule to follow is that if you send him a text and he doesn’t respond back, don’t keep on texting him.  This is showing desperation.  This also makes him feel that you are trying to control him. You are trying to force him to text you back when he doesn’t want to be bothered. 

It’s important that you don’t chase him. If he wants you, he will seek you out and you won’t have to question where his heart lays.  It’s important that you see that you can drive someone away from you by doing something excessive.

Learn to respect his boundaries and space.  Try to use etiquette when texting.  If you see that he is not responding, he is either to busy to communicate with you or he simply doesn’t want to talk/text right now. Give him the space that he needs in order to do what he feels is best for his life. By doing this, you are showing him that you are a loving and respectful person.

This is the same for a man texting a woman to much. As a love coach, most of my clients are women.  Around 90%.  However, in 10% of the men that I speak to, they often have a problem with over texting as well.

Learn what your partner needs from you and often they will reward you with a smile, love or simply more time together.  When you respect someone else’s boundaries, it tells them a lot about you. It tells them that you are the kind of person that respects others and you don’t force things to happen.  It is something that often is happening in people all around the world. It’s important for you to look at life and see that you can do what is right. 

As you can see, expressing affection comes naturally for some people and for others, it’s a work in progress.  Work on your relationship today and you will come to see that it’s the best decision that you ever made in your life.  Love happens to people that are willing to work on their problem.

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