Bullying in the workplace is becoming far to common. Millions of men and women feel like they are going to work everyday and getting bullied. There is nothing more degrading then working in an atmosphere where you feel that you can’t say much of anything back to the person that is bullying you because you fear getting fired.
Bullies love to lash out at people that they feel are weaker than themselves. They often like to talk behind your back at work to try and make you look bad. They may be your boss, manager or another person in the workplace. You may find that getting bullied is so bad that you want to quit your job. Before you quit your job, trying to follow these steps.
#1 If the Bully is Your Boss:
Start looking for a backup job. The reason why I say this is because you will have to confront your boss about what he/she may be doing to you that is hurtful. If your boss is a good person, they will most likely apologize to you and say that it won’t happen ever again. If they are self-centered and feel like they can bully you no matter what you say, they won’t change. It’s important that you find another job quickly. You can’t go any higher and everyday of your life will be miserable working there. Before talking to your boss, its important that you have another job lined up incase you get fired or feel the need to quit. Always protect yourself.
#2 If the Bully is Your Manager:
First talk to them about their behavior and what is bothering you. If they refuse to change, report them immediately to a higher manager/boss. Never let the bully think that they can keep on acting a certain way to you. Bully’s can be mean and self-centered. tend to get worse if they are not corrected from the start. Don’t argue with a bully. Only tell them how you feel about the way that they are treating you. Bullying in the workplace has become a problem all over the USA and around the world.
#3 If the Bully is Your Co-Worker
Talk to your co-worker about what they are doing that is offending you. A co-worker will often stop their behavior if they know that you are confronting them head on about it. If they refuse to change, let them know that you are going to report them to management. This often causes the bully to fear losing their job and therefore, they will back off you.
Why Are People Bullies?
Bullies often want to hurt other people because they feel insecure about themselves or angry about something that is going on in their life. Many times, a bully will show that they are angry because they feel like something is wrong at home or perhaps, they were bullied as a child.
Bullying at work can often mean that someone is calling you offensive names, or they are doing something physically to upset you. Sometimes it’s a group of people at work that are a “click” and want to gang up on you. Bullying can come in all shapes and forms. Bullies hate to be confronted about their behavior. They often fear getting outed. However, if you don’t confront the bully, it will destroy your life.
Many people wake up for work every day wondering why they are working a certain job because they fear going to work because of someone hurting them. Bullying is a problem in schools as well.
Bullies often want you to feel like you are powerless against them. A bully like to take control and watch the world do what it wants. However, its important to always confront a bully because the bully becomes much stronger with time.
Should You Leave the Workplace Without Confronting the Bully First?
You should never leave a workplace without confronting a bully first. The reason for this is because you will have this problem no matter where you work and are bound to run into this problem time and time again. If you don’t learn how to deal with a bully now, you most likely never will. There is no perfect workplace and every workplace will have its own share of problems. On every job, you will have someone that kisses up to the boss and someone else that never feels appreciated. You have others that are lazy and just want to collect their paycheck with doing little to no work.
You will find that talking to a bully face to face give you more confidence and you will learn that talking to them helps them to see how badly they are acting. Believe it or not, many bullies have no idea how hurtful and harmful they are being to other people. In their minds, they think that they are only being mean and inappropriate. They never realize how painful they are being to another person.
By confronting the bully, you are also helping them to see that they are affecting everyone else around them. Most bullies are not used to getting a talking to.
I once had a bully at work. She was a manager and as soon as I saw her bullying me, I confronted her. She practically laughed in my face. I was 24 at the time and she was 47. I told her that I did not like her attitude towards me and if it continues, I will report it to management.
She was a stubborn bully and challenged me. She looked at me in the face and said, “Do whatever you want. I don’t care!” After this discussion, I walked into the higher-level managements office and told them what had happened. The senior manager told me something that I didn’t know about her. The senior manager told me that she had already been reported 2 times by other people and this was going to be her 3rd strike.
Within a day, the bully manager apologized to me several times and was completely different towards me. The senior manager told me that he did fire her, but the manager begged to stay. The senior manager demanded that she apologize to me and if she didn’t, she was going to be fired.
I quickly realized that I not only helped myself, but other people that felt like they were being bullied in the workplace as well. Sometimes, you don’t know how many people are being affected by the bully around you. You will not only be helping yourself, but everyone else that is being affected by the bully.
If you feel intimidated by a bully at work, you are not alone. Each year, millions of men and women walk into work feeling like they are being pushed around by someone that is often insecure and mean. They want to go to work to feel that they can do something that they enjoy and make a living doing it. However, in every workplace there is someone that tends to be the bully. Bullies often want o to get everything accomplished and they often feel that they must look at something and make complete sense of it.
You can easily look at a bully and see that they are out to make trouble. This trouble will often seem unfair to you. You often don’t know why the bully is acting like that. However, it helps to just not talk to the bully at all.
If the bully won’t leave you alone, then its best to find someone to talk to about it. It can be devastating if you must walk through your workplace daily getting glances and stares at someone that is probably making your daily life a living hell.
Bullies often don’t want to be known for bullying. Instead, they want to put on a smile and act like everything is okay. They often find someone that they can pick on that is a lot less fortunate than they are. It’s often hard to find someone that has not been affected by a bully at work at least once in their life.
When a bully begins to feel powerful, they tend to only do what makes themselves feel happy. You may not know it now, but the bully does like to feel that they have the upper hand over you. They will often change the story around to make it seem like you are to blame, they often want everyone around them to feel sorry for them when they get into trouble. Bullies never want to make anyone feel like they can do what makes themselves feel unhappy.
You need to get into the heart of the bully to find out who they really are and what they are all about. Bullies often have a history of bullying other people. This is when you have to say, “I am going to learn all that I can about bullies in order to find out what I am truly all about.” Sometimes we may not know exactly what the bully’s true intentions are. However, we need to always look at the fact that we have the answers from within.
I think that bullies are also looking for friends at the same time. Nobody wants to try and bully another person unless they have been mistreated in their own lives. It’s true that it gives not excuse o the person that is the bully. However, this can often offer a small explanation as to why the bully is hard to deal with. People often want to feel like they can look at their life and feel that everything around them is going to move in a more positive direction at some point. It’s always good to use your own judgement when trying to figure out a bully.
I find that bullies like to stand more alone. Occasionally, they will get someone to stand up for them. However, it can be rather difficult to find what you are truly searching for in your life. I like to think of life as being something that you can mold and shape on your own. You may never fully understand or even know why someone wants to get close to you. All that you can do is to try and figure out how you can open to someone and have them open to you as well.
The challenges that we get at work are often overwhelming and sometimes you are more superior at work than another people’s performance. Sometimes it’s hard to imagine yourself being on the same level as someone else. Bullies often feel like they are competing with you and must take something from you. It’s can be rather difficult to see someone at work being jealous of you. However, jealousy is part of human nature and it cannot be ignored. You must always see life as being something that you can carefully take on in new ways. I find that in life, you will always be a part of something that makes complete sense.
You need to look at your workplace and ask yourself if it feels that you are home. Often, when we have a workplace that makes us feel happy, we don’t want to leave it. If we love what we do, then everything else in our path begins to come together on its own. A bully may be able to see that and get jealous for you. Bullies often don’t want to see you being successful. They often want themselves to always outdo you. It’s sad to see a bully always looking at what works for them and not at what works for you. It can be sad to figure out the life of a bully for more reasons than we can talk about right now.
Most bullies want to intimidate and make you feel less than them. This is a high sign of insecurity. If you feel like someone on your job is like this, then its time to take on the challenge and show the bully that you are not going to back down to them. You will always look at your life and realize that you can take on a greater challenge than you have ever had before in your life. Allow the spirit world to give you some type of inner power to go against the bully and win. Yes, you can always find a new challenge to take on in life and bullies will often fear you for what you are to them.
I think that when we finally have addressed the bully, they will finally start to back away from you. This doesn’t always happen quickly. Sometimes we need to take our time when it comes to accomplishing the task that we set out to do. Look at the bright side and say that you can learn from your past mistakes and learn what will happen for you and on what level. You can easily look at your life and feel like you can accomplish a task that tends to make yourself feel sad. You need to always learn more about the future through your own accomplishments.
The energy around most people is that they can learn more about the future and events that tend to follow what is going to happen later down the road. The bully is just looking for attention. In order to get away from the bully, one must say that they must learn how to listen to their inner heart and feel like they can carry on interesting facts about themselves. If you think about it, you can easily learn more about who you are in the world today.
If you look at your life as being a constant problem, you will never be able to wake up happy. If you feel that your life is not what you want it to be, then learn how to let go and come to a point in which you can feel more progress. I find that as we progress in life, we begin to see what the future is going to have in store for us. Learning how to walk along in life feeling like we have answers is the way to success and to feeling more accomplished.
I think that you can always defeat a bully if you don’t let them get to you. By doing this, you are showing the bully that you are a lot stronger than they think. Most bullies want to break us. I loved the movie Unbreakable. It was about a war prisoner that was always challenged by a bully officer that was imprisoning him. He showed that no matter what was thrown at him, he would always stand up and do what was right and finish the ask that he set out to do. You can always find that there is something in life that you can learn from.
I find that other people’s stories about bullies helps to learn how others have overcome the power of the bully and put their life into proper perspective. It’s important to share your story with others that may be going through the same thing as you are. Today, social media is often lit up with people complaining about bullying and what someone else is doing to them. It’s amazing what one bully can do to a whole bunch of people. It can often be hard to work with a bully because they often want to see things only their way. However, I have given you some things to do in order to combat the bullying experience.